‘The song is ended but the melody lingers on.’

- Irving Berlin

Bereavement

Losing someone is one of the most devastating events we may face in our lives. We may be hit by a tsunami of emotions…or by none at all. At times it may feel like the waves of grief may engulf us…although the numbness can be just as painful.

Most of the time we are able to go through the grieving process on our own, or with the support of our loved ones. However, sometimes, we may encounter difficulties along the way.

To make things worse, grief can be an incredibly isolating experience. People fear saying the wrong thing, so they say little or nothing. Even those who do talk about it, stop asking after a while. People within the same family grieve differently and at different times. We might not want to ‘burden’ others with our sadness, or we don’t have anyone who can listen. It can be difficult to bear it on our own.

Bereavement therapy can help in various ways. I can provide you with a space where to process your emotions, whichever those might be, around the loss of the person and the relationship. I can help you rebuild yourself around the loss and find new ways of being in the world without your loved one. You can also find new ways of being connected to the person you lost.


Complicated Bereavement

Sometimes bereavements are complicated by other factors…


The deceased may have been an abuser.

The latest loss reopens previous wounds of unprocessed losses.

Very difficult relationships with unexpressed hostility.

Grief for what you wished for and never had, and now will never have.

In case of long-term degenerative illnesses you may feel that you have already lost someone even though they are still alive.

Multiple losses.

You were not able to grieve publicly.

The loss is uncertain, e.g. the person went missing.

Highly dependent relationships.

Bereavement by Suicide

and more…


‘In Grief, the first person you wish you could talk to is no longer alive.

The second person to talk to is another who understands grief and wants to meet yo right were you are.’ - David Kessler